Whether or not your pregnancy was intended, the experience of miscarriage is painful. If you’ve experienced miscarriage after an unplanned pregnancy, you may be wrestling with some additional thoughts or questions, such as:
Is this punishment?
…for the circumstances of my pregnancy?
…for past mistakes?
Did my negative thoughts about the pregnancy cause this to happen?
In a way I am relieved, yet I feel terribly guilty. Does this make me a horrible person?
You are not alone in these thoughts and questions. Even women who were actively trying to get pregnant struggle with similar concerns as they search to make meaning out of something so senseless. Your questions and feelings are quite normal and you are not a terrible person for questioning God or yourself or for pondering these tough thoughts as you process your pain.