Teen Pregnancy

Parents of Pregnant Teens #6 – If She Wants to Parent, What is My Role?

Parents of Pregnant Teens #6 – If She Wants to Parent, What is My Role?

Your role is whatever your daughter needs from you and whatever you are comfortable with. These are things you and your daughter will want to talk over before the baby arrives. Ideally, she should initiate these conversations, but if she doesn’t, here are some questions you can ask:

  • What is your plan for childcare when you go back to work after the birth?
  • How do you plan to juggle school and childcare?
  • What is the baby’s father going to contribute to childcare?
  • How are you going to provide for the baby? Are there expenses you’re not sure if you can cover?
  • What do you expect from me/us (as your parents)?
  • What is your plan for childcare when you want to go hang out with friends/do something social?
  • Do you plan to move out and get your own place or stay at home? (If that is an option.)

Now, there are many more questions that are going to come up, but if you clear some of the things above up with her before the due date, you are less likely to come to misunderstandings after the birth. To not make it sound like an interrogation, try to space these questions out. read more

Parents of Pregnant Teens #3 – Helping Your Teenager Make a Decision for her Pregnancy

Parents of Pregnant Teens #3 – Helping Your Teenager Make a Decision for her Pregnancy

If you just found out that your teen daughter is pregnant, ultimately, the decision of what do with the pregnancy is in your daughter’s hands. This may be hard to swallow.

After 14+ years of raising her, you probably know her pretty well (though she might deny it). This means that you will be able to help her sort through her options while knowing a little better than a counselor about her hopes, dreams, morals, and desires.

How does she feel about being a teen mom? Adoption? Abortion? Hear her out, and of course, you can insert your opinion too and explain your reasoning. You might help her realize things she hadn’t even considered. But make sure you really hear her out before you give her any input. read more